Hello and hope you are well and enjoying the holiday season! It is a crazy time of year. Let's remember that the most important thing is being able to be with our family and friends. There are 20 families in Newtown, CT who will never be able to celebrate the holidays the same way again. Perspective is important for all of us to remember.
Which brings me to my topic for today....Post Wedding Depression and remembering what is truly important. The most important thing to remember when planning your wedding, during your wedding and after your wedding is that you and the love of your life have pledged your love to each other and are embarking on a new life together.
Now this may sound a little crazy coming from a wedding planner. But it is the truth. Don't get me wrong, I ADORE planning weddings, charitable events, parties and other fun stuff. It is my passion and I am blessed to be able to do what I love everyday. Forming lasting relationships with our couples, knowing that we can help change a life and seeing families come together are rewards that can't be quantified.
So remember the following when reflecting on your wedding day.
1. You are now married to the most special person in your world.
2. No matter how much you plan, organize and plan again...something will not go according to plan.
Examples....people will show up late, people will show up early, people will RSVP yes and not show up at all, your hair won't turn out the way it did during your trial, someone will forget the marriage license (this actually happened at one of our weddings), the weather may not be perfect, people will forget what they learned at rehearsal...and the list goes on and on and on.
3. You will know that something is not the way you planned, but 9 times out of 10 your guests will have no idea. At my own wedding, the organist played the wrong processional song as I was coming down the aisle. The only thing to do was smile and keep going. Did I dwell for weeks and think that my wedding was ruined...no, I joke about it now.
4. Your hired professionals will do everything in their power to make your wedding/event smooth and special. They will take care of things that you will never know about. They may miss a thing or two in the interest of solving a bigger problem or fixing something that unexpectedly arose. But remember, that we are human too and sometimes a mistake is made.
After the glow of the wedding and honeymoon fade, you are back in the real world. No longer are you the center of attention. Your friends and family have had a chance to "debrief" you on all of their thoughts and opinions (whether positive or negative, right or wrong) and suddenly you find yourself dissecting the whole day...and now your perfect wedding is flawed in your mind. This is a complete waste of energy.
Remember the love you felt from your family and friends. Remember the look on your new spouse's face when you saw him/her for the first time. Remember the fun you had dancing. Remember the special times with an older family member. My wedding was the last time I saw my Great Aunt with Alzheimers, focused, alert and having fun. I cherish that memory. Take in every wonderful moment and hold them dear to your hearts. Life can change in an instant so remember what is truly important in this world.
So enough of my soapbox.
Until next time,
Blessings to you all.
Jen, Mandi and Amelia
561-254-2041
jennifer@fabuluxeevents.com
PS. I am going to hug my husband and son just a little tighter tonight.